Ada (not real name) and I started dating right from secondary school, we wrote jamb together, she got admission in Imo State university while mine was Abia State University. The proximity to our different locations helped seal our communication gab as we were always frequenting each others campus. Ada was my first girl friend, and for the nine years we dated, I never saw the pant of any other girl (hard to believe but true), I loved Ada with everything in me. Our relationship was the envy of all, I can possibly call it a perfect relationship as I can't recall Ada and I having any serious misunderstanding. We weren't just dating, we were like brother and sister.
When Ada and I were still in secondary school, you know, base on the fact that we were still teenagers then living under our parent's roof, seeing each other was very difficult for us; we always sneak to see each other. I can remember vividly how I do drive to Ada's area with my father's car, I will play a particular music and drive pass her house, I will drive pass her house like three times with the music playing, so, wherever she is and hear the music, she will know that I'm around, then she will go to their backyard fence, climb with a bench while I walk over to the other side of the fence for us to see and talk.
Ada's father was a King, he had a factory where they produce palm kernel oil. So, basically, Ada was from a wealthy family. My father too had a factory were we produce soaps, candles,etc, I usually follow my dad to Ada's fathers' factory to purchase palm kernel oil for production, that was how Ada and I met. Being that both of us were from a wealthy family, money was never an issue between Ada and I.
In our 200L, Ada lost her dad, being that her dad had three wives, sharing of the man's property became an issue, so his properties were sealed till the case is settled in court. Things became bad for Ada, her mum and her immediate siblings. She started having lot of financial challenges, on my part, my dad fell ill that period to which led to his death, so I couldn't possibly take care of myself come to talk of taking care of another.
Suddenly, Ada started having lot of uncles. Today she will tell me that her uncle that stays in the U.S came and asked her to come over to Abuja to collect money. Ada will travel, and come back with plenty of money and phone (then phone was a scarce commodity), she started living larger than life. It became obvious to me that she was probably getting this money from a source I do not know of.
One day, I confronted her, I demanded that she tell me the truth. She broke down and started crying, she told me that it was actually a man that has been spending money on her. She went on to tell me that the man has been the one taking care of her family as well and the man intends marrying her. For the first time in my life, I broke down and cried like a baby because of a woman. I have never felt this terrible all my life, I couldn't get myself to believe that Ada could possibly do this to me after all what we shared together and the trust I have for her. She kept telling me that she did it for her future and her family as she wouldn't want to drop out of school.
I couldn't live to see another man take the girl I have come to love so much away from me, so, i started applying for visa. When my visa came out, I wanted to be with Ada for at least the last time. I invited her over to my house, she came. After lot of shading tears and consoling each other, the urge to make love enveloped us. We have already stripped, looking at her nakedness, it felt like I was just seeing her body for the first time, my body has never been this moved even till now, I told myself that I'm going to make love to her but this time, it will be for the last time. We were at the middle of this when a friend of mine came knocking on my door, this totally placed me off the mood... Till now, I feel bad each time I remember this incidence, and I find it just difficult to forgive that my friend.
Not long after I travelled, Ada's family case regarding the sharing of her late dad's properties got settled, from the wealth, Ada got the sum of N5,000000 (five million naira) and a house with an accumulated rent of N3,000000 (three million naira) making her total worth N8,000000 (eight million naira). She automatically changed her mind about marrying the man who has seen both her and her family through financially when things were tough. She kept calling me that she wants to come over so that we will be together, she kept applying for visa but it kept bouncing.
I really loved Ada, I believe we could have made a wonderful couple, but I couldn't just bring myself to do it. A man has really done more than enough for her and her family in the name of both getting married, its totally wrong for her to leave him now. Moreover, I have long cried over her and consoled myself.
One fateful day, I sent her a very long mail. In the mail, I told her I'm changing all my contacts and I don't wish for her to try contact me again... We weren't meant to be. I changed virtually all my contact that she has and never contacted her. From her family pressure, she got married to the other man.
After many years, we got talking again via phone and we met once in my sister's house when I came back to Nigeria. Till now, she has never stopped telling me how she still loves me and wished that we ended up together. Her sister once sent me a recording of the things she said when she was in labour, she kept calling my name to hold her and not leave her... Its painful though, but I'm a happily married man now with a sweet baby girl. My wife is the best gift God has ever given me. My wife makes me realise why God didn't allow Ada and I to get married.
Culled from MOMENT WITH ANITA BLOG
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